My last pep talk was apparently pretty popular. So in that vein, I thought I’d share one I just gave to someone earlier this evening.
This person was (actually, at the time of this writing, still is) sitting in a cafe near a person they thought was cute. They’ve seen this person a few times, had a few conversations, and now advice is being requested about what they should do.
…FUCKING TALK TO THEM! It’s not THAT hard!
“But, what if they say no?”
WHO CARES!?! Why are you rejecting yourself before they get the chance to? What gives YOU the right to get in their head? Let them decide if they like you or not. You owe them that!
So what if they aren’t interested in something more? But you know what? What if they ARE?
What if you go up to them and say “You know, we’ve shared some fun moments, I think. And I’d like to share a few more. Would that be okay?” And what if they say “Why, YES! That would be de-LIGHT-ful!” And you join them for coffee and you talk about movies and music and musicals and the way the word “snack” sounds and your favorite posts on Tumblr (like this one!) and that one crazy moment in that one video game that changed your perspective on interaction design and the Super Bowl and anything and everything?
You might make a new friend, and that’s pretty awesome. Hell, it might even get romantic. And if you don’t take a chance, you might never get to tell the story about the first kiss, and how it was quite possibly the best kiss you’ve ever had in your entire life. That magic… The spark that ignited when your lips met… Unlike any other kiss before it. And the dates to the library or the park or the movies or Paris…
Look, you already know how it goes if you DON’T do any of those things together, because you’re literally living that reality RIGHT NOW. All those things I just mentioned? You’re not doing them together right this very second. You’ve already seen that fate. And it’s BORRRRRING.
So try a new one. It MIGHT work out! You won’t know until you do something about it. And sitting there, doing nothing? That’s still doing something about it… Inaction is an action.
Sitting there scared that you might lose what little bit of cheerful interaction you currently share because you wanted to see if there was something more is a fool’s trade. If someone judges you negatively because you found them attractive, they’re not really someone you’re going to want to spend much time with anyway, are they?
Don’t be a ninny! Don’t let your fear of being turned down or looking silly or anything else that HASN’T HAPPENED YET get in the way of taking a chance! How do you know this person hasn’t been thinking the same thing about you?
Fear is healthy and expected, but it should never, ever control you.
Follow your heart.
(Followup: For the record, they’re going out tomorrow :) )
oh my fucking god tumblr have you not realized by now NOBODY likes that excerpt-reblog bullshit
how do i reblog a full post from the mobile app? damn.
Dear Mom and Dad,
This is what happiness looks like. Sorry you were so miserable in your own lives that you couldn’t allow me a chance at my own. I went out and found it anyway. I miss you, and will miss you even more this holiday season since you won’t allow me to come back home unless I have a woman on my arm. Oh by the way, we’ll still be using the family recipe for the stuffing, I’m sure it’ll be a hit with our friends.
Your son, his boyfriend, and our spoiled cat
I’m actually going to cry this is so cute!
if i lay here
if i just lay here
would you get me my charger because my laptop is about to die